Lead British International School said it has started investigating the latest allegation of bullying in the Abuja school. But social media won’t have any of that.CONTINUE FULL READING>>>>
“Bullying is one of the biggest issue in Lead British international school,” an X user wrote. “And the worst thing is that they don’t even take serious actions for it. The punishment they use is always packing of trash like…does that make sense?”
The school management’s response could only brass off more people. Punishment is a dirty word, and the bully isn’t going to the pillory.
And to all parents who have got bullies for children, Unicef says not to worry.
Your child is no devil.
“Children who bully often just want to fit in, need attention or are simply figuring out how to deal with complicated emotions,’ the UN agency says in its recommendations. Or they have fallen victims of not just bullying, but other kids of domestic violence.
What to do
1. Communicate
Understanding why your child is acting out will help you know how to help them. If they have trouble explaining their behaviour, you may consult with a counsellor, social worker, or mental health professional who is trained to work with children.
2. Work through healthy ways of coping
Ask your child to explain a scenario that frustrated them, and offer constructive ways of reacting. Then play the what-if game for future occurrences. Especially as a victim.
3. Examine yourself
Bullies often model what they see at home. Look inward and think honestly about how you are presenting to your child.
4. Give consequences and opportunities to make amends
If you find out your child has been bullying, it is important to offer appropriate, non-violent consequences. This could be limiting their activities, especially those that encourage bullying.Encourage your child to apologize to their peers.
5. Work with the school to determine consequences
If a bully gets away with it, they may think such actions have no consequences. Talk to your school about appropriate consequences for your child, proportional to the offense. Discipline should always be immediate, non-violent and focused on correcting the behaviour and rehabilitation. No punishment.
6 Talk to school counselors
If your child’s school has a counselor, set up a meeting to discuss your child’s behaviour. One-on-one meetings between your child and the school counselor may also help.CONTINUE FULL READING>>>>
