How can you tell if the person you are with is cheating?
If you are asking this question, you probably already suspect that something is wrong in your relationship, or that you are the victim of infidelity. Of course, every relationship is unique when it comes to the telltale signs of infidelity, but there are some universal traits you can search for.
1. Use of a computer or phone in secret.
Cheaters typically use their computers and phones more than they used to and take great care of them as though their lives depended on it.
It is not good if your partner’s laptop and phone previously did not need a password but now do.
It is not a good sign if your partner starts routinely erasing their browser history and deleting texts out of the blue.
It is not a good sign if your partner never gives up their phone, not even to take it with them when they take a shower.
It is also problematic if you ask to look through your partner’s phone and they refuse.
Aside from the fact that it is your surprise birthday, what could be there that they would want to keep a secret?
2. Times when you can not get in touch with your partner.
You are less likely to get calls or texts from your partner if they are cheating on you.
You might come across plausible justifications such as they were attending a meeting, driving, or in a “dead zone” and were unaware that you were attempting to contact them.
It is not a good sign if your partner is unavailable because they are working late or traveling for work.
3. A changed timetable.
Your significant other might be lying if they start to work late more frequently after they have never before needed to stay late at work.
It may be an indication that your spouse is spending weekend getaways with an affair partner if they have never taken a business trip and now feel the need to go.
Infidelity may also be indicated by flat tires, dead batteries, traffic jams, going to the gym later than usual, and other similar justifications for being absent or late.
A partner who cheats may also start to forget important things like birthdays and other important occasions, like picking up the kids.
